Advice Q & A: Relationships

Q: I’m going out with someone and they are pressuring me to do some things I’m not ready should I listen and do it?

A: Well first off, pressure is never a good sign. It all depends on how long you've been with the person. If it's only been a short time and they are pressuring you, then that's a very bad thing. If it's been a while and they are starting to pressure you, that is also bad. You should not listen to them because they do not own you. You have your own mind and have the right to decline/reject. Don't be scared to say no them because you really like them and are afraid of losing them. The honorable and dignifying thing to do is to not listen to them pressuring you.

Q: An older boy in my apartment building is paying a lot of attention to me. He’s also 6 years older than me. My mom doesn’t want me to talk to him, but it’s nice to be noticed. What should I do?

A: I can relate when you say that it's nice to be noticed, because it is. 6 years is a bit of an age difference. You have to ask your mom why she doesn't want you to talk to him. Ask if she knows him or has seen him acting a certain way that you havent seen. Talk to your mom first and try to persuade her into letting you talk to the boy. Convince her that you just want to get to know the boy.

Q: I have been having this dream over and over again, also I love the boy a lot. What should I do?

A: The fact that you like the boy so much is taking over your subconscious mind. Ask yourself if anything that occurs in the dream is possible in reality. They do say that the person in your dream is actually dreaming about you as well. Confront the boy. Take a chance. Don't tell him about the dream until you two date or something.

Q: What do I do if the boy I like has a girlfriend? How do I express my feelings?

A: This can always be a tricky situation. First, you must talk to him and see if he has feelings for you as well. Then, you must see whether or not he is having problems with his girlfriend. If his relationship is fine, then you should not pursue him. If he is trying to pursue you, you must let him know that he cannot have two girls. If he is having problems with his girlfriend, then he must figure them out with her until he decides to pursue you. To express your feelings, you can pull him to the side privately and talk with him about it.