I think that even to this day, I still struggle with self-confidence. I have never let that stop me, though. Even though I sometimes find it really hard to believe in myself, I go through life pretending that I'm fully confident in everything that I do. Lately, that state of mind was fading, so I talked to a friend who always seems extremely confident and she told me something I'd like to share with you all: "Fake it 'til you make it."
That's something that I've really been taking to heart. I don't think anyone out there truly believes in herself 100%. We all have to have insecurities, but it's important not to let them bother us or stop us from doing what we want to do. If self-confidence is something that truly hinders us from achieving our goals, we need to just set aside our insecurities and pretend that we don't have anything that bothers us. It's obviously not easy, especially if it's something you've struggled with your whole life, but it's important to try anyway.
I have had friends tell me they admire the way I hold myself and the fact that no matter what people may or may not think about me, I know what I think of myself and that's what's important. That's not always true. I don't think it's fully possible to disregard what other people say and not let it affect us at all, but the important thing is pretending like it doesn't. If people think offensive comments bother us, they'll just keep throwing them at us and wait until we break. I think it's preferable to acknowledge that it was something not very nice and then just ignore it.
I genuinely believe that if you pretend to be confident, that idea will catch up with you eventually and what was once acting will be a reality. It's hard to see ourselves the way others might see us; to see all the positives instead of the negatives, but if we fake it, eventually we'll start to believe it's true.