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 Recently, I discovered that someone who I thought was my friend for 5 years hates me. She knows basically everything about me and I know everything about her! The thing is, I'm not that worried about it. I'm not going to let this turn into unnecessary drama that nobody needs. She may be 'popular', the only reason she is known is for letting other people use her body and degrade her name. I'm not trying to put her down, but she always had talked smack about ALL her friends and the people around her. Like she had nothing else to talk about. I have always suspected that she would do the same to me. Mind you, I'm the girl that bought her gifts on her birthday, defended her so she wouldn't get in trouble in school, and gave her rides to practice everyday last year. But word around my friends is that she has always hated me because all I do is complain. Why would I complain? I have a steady relationship, job, car, and good grades. I've talked to my mom about it and she said she could be jealous. I just don't understand why the person who I thought was my friend is talking bad about me to MY friends. I wish I could grasp on what's truly going on, but it seems like I'll never know the reason. I'm glad I know this because now I will have my guard up a lot more and try to prevent his from happening again. So my friends, be careful who you're friends with and what you tell them because who knows, they may not even like you.

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Comment by Arleen E Lopez on March 30, 2013 at 11:41am

Well, at least you tried! Unfortunately there will be people that don't like you or will put you down. But keep your head up high. You were already the bigger person in trying. Sometimes these things happen, but look at it as an opportunity to meet new people/make new friends. Rise above it, and remember that there are other people in the world who will take you for who you are. Good luck! <3 

Comment by Destiny Rodriguez on March 28, 2013 at 4:51am

Well I directly talked to her and she gave me no reason to why she doesn't like me. Yet she is still continuing to put me down with my other friends :/ I'm going to try for it not to bother me. I tried!

Comment by Veronica Porras on March 16, 2013 at 8:12pm

Hey Destiny! Well, like Arleen I believe that talking to my friend directly is the best idea. Your other friends might have your well being in mind. However, your friendship with this individual can only be set straight by both of you. No one else. It's hard to keep good relationships but when you really care about the other person it works to talk to each other. After that, you can know that you did your best. If this person was talking behind your back then talk about why. But if this doesn't work, do move on to other friends. As one grows older, you realize how important it is to maintain your relationships and how hard it can be sometimes but it's worth it. Just think, the more you can get through together the more you can rely on each other.

Comment by Arleen E Lopez on March 15, 2013 at 1:56pm

Hi Destiny, I have found myself in a similar situation to yours. From my experience, it's usually a good idea to talk things out with your friend directly rather than rely on rumors from other friends. It's ok if your friend who you thought liked you for many years doesn't anymore, because you can make other friends! Oftentimes people are going through difficult or confusing times, and they take it out on undeserving people. Just remember to keep an open mind and a kind heart through this process. If talking to her doesn't work and she is still someone you can't trust, then move on to other friends! And remember to spread love, not hate. :) I hope things work out!




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